An interesting meme

This is interesting. I have read a lot of memes in a bunch of blogs and even wondered if I will be able to be answer them as candidly as they have. And now Nasmira (probably the only regular visitor of my blog) has tagged me in such a meme.

So here it goes

1. Summer or winter?

Summer! I like the sun, warmth and bright colours. I guess practically living all my life in a city which experiences summer a good part of the year makes me feel so plus I don't mind the tan and humidity but I hate cold and flaky stuff.

2. The latest book you read?

The one I finished reading- Tea for two and a piece of cake by Preeti Shenoy.
and the one I have been reading for ages and still do not have the heart and brains to complete it- The Argumentative Indian by Amartya Sen.

3.If you could swap your country/nationality for any other, which one would it be?
Wooh! tough one. I always wanted go around the world and live in a few countries like Australia, New Zealand and London but swapping my nationality? Sorry, no way! I love being Indian beyond everything and also I am so content in this country that I cant think of me being a resident of any other country. Being Indian suits me perfect.

4.One random fact about yourself
I have never broken a bone. Seriously, not once all these 24 years. So either I am too conscious or too lucky or not so much fun as my cousin once pointed out.

5.  What would you have named yourself if you were given the chance to?
Sidhanthika, I love this name. The best thing about this name is I created it. Truly, I did. But when I was in school I wished my name started with A! Who would like to be the last person to be called for everything? Sometimes I was even clubbed with the next section for projects. Other than that Subashini does sound cool and I love the meaning of my name too.

6. When was the last time you wrote a hand written letter?
A couple of weeks ago to "myself". Yes, I thought there is so much happening at present in my life that my future self should know the emotions and thoughts and most importantly never forget the humble lessons I have learnt. So I wrote a letter "to me, by me" to be read after 10 years, if I survive. Crazy? A little bit may be.

7. If you could rewrite ONE historic event..what would it be?
I like the way the it is. Who am I to meddle with time? I believe "whatever happens, happens for good". Also if I change a single event, it would change everything that has happened, isn't it like a chain reaction?

8. When was the last time you hugged a child, looked into those innocent eyes and told you love him/her?
A couple of days back I hugged my 2 year old nephew. Now, I am not good(rather I suck at it) at letting someone know how much I care about them. That is a bit I am working on :)

9. When was the last time a stranger smiled at u because of your kind word/deed to him/her ?
Last week! I was been frisked for security reason in a temple and offered the security personnel water because she looked like she was about to fall anytime. She gave an astounding smile which she seemed to have forgotten while doing the routine. That was a genuine smile.

10. What’s your favorite color :D
I love lavender.
Clothes- black
Sky- sunset colour
Pen- blue
Eyes- honey
Oh, you can add purple too :)

11.  What got you into blogging?
Love for words may be. I wanted to express myself on some platform with/without audience. Blogging seemed to be best choice. Also it kind of liberates me. Now, that is something most of the bloggers will agree to!

Oh my, I have managed to answer all 11?! Wow. Thanks NF, I really enjoyed doing this post.

Listen to your voice- A Naani Poem

I came across a form of poetry called Naani. Now if you are hearing it for the first time like I did, this is what Naani is

It is one of the popular form of Indian Telugu poems. Nanni in Telugu means an expression of one and all.It generally depicts human relations or current statements. It was introduced by a well renowned Telugu poet Dr. N. Gopi. (Source: Writing.com)

There are not many hard and fast rules for Naani. 

The two important rules are

• A Naani contains four lines and is usually a solo verse. However, you can write more than one verse and the poem is called multiple Naani.
• The syllable count of all these lines should be between 20-25.

Interesting isn't it? It got me all excited.

This is one such wonderful Naani poem written by Bollimuntha Venkata Ramana Rao 

In-between
Language and slang
Arise the difference
Who are noble? 

Well, this is my first attempt at a Naani poem:

 Listen to the voice

And not the noise

To remain poise

Because life is your choice

A heart that can forgive

I detest bulk mails that flood my inbox everyday. One because it shouts at me to read it even if it is a piece of utter non-sense and invariably have to delete them. What a waste of time! Two, most of the of the time they ask me to forward these mails to a dozen of people and swear that failing to do which t might put me mortal danger.

So when I got a mail from a friend who is not usually into sending such forwards, I thought "Omg, another set of mails to delete every day."Surprisingly, after reading it, I did not have the same notion. I am not sure if she wrote it herself, which is a possibility considering she is a journalist, psychologist apart from her regular profession.  

So I am going to give credits for the wonderful words etched below to Neha Tinwalla. She sends a wonderful mail every Thursday called Thursday thoughts and thankfully I do not feel like deleting them. And this is one such set of thoughts.

 It is human tendency to have expectations and pin our hopes on a lot of things and even people. Not surprisingly we end up being bitterly disappointed if things don't turn out the way we wanted. The old saying forgive n forget is indeed like a miracle drug for the broken heart. Folks, there are four people you need to forgive if you are serious about changing your life and learning how to live in the now.

Parents

The first are your parents, living or dead. You must absolutely forgive them for every mistake they ever made in bringing you up. At the very least, you should be grateful to them for giving you life. They got you here. If you are happy to be alive, you can forgive them for everything else. Never complain about them again.

Often this simple act of courage and character will have a profound effect on your relationship with your mother or father. From that day onward, you will become good friends, which will last for the rest of your lives together.

On the other hand, by not forgiving your parents, you remain forever a child. You block your own chance to grow up and become a fully functioning adult. You continue to see yourself as a victim. Even worse, you keep your negative feelings of inferiority and anger alive. If your parents die without your having forgiven them, it can bother you for the rest of your life.

Close ones

The second person or persons you must forgive are the people from your marriages or relationships that didn’t work out. These intimate relationships can be so intense, and so threatening to your feelings of self-esteem and self-worth, that you can be angry and unforgiving toward those people for years.

But you were at least partially responsible. Have the personal strength and integrity to say, “I am responsible,” and then forgive the other person and let him or her go. Say the words, “I forgive him/her for everything and I wish him/her well.” Each time you repeat this, the negative emotion attached to the memory will diminish. Soon it will be gone forever.

The Letter

Many have found that “the letter” is the key to putting a bad relationship behind them forever. This is a powerful technique that can free you from feelings of anger and resentment almost instantly.

Here is how it works: You to sit down and write the other person a letter of forgiveness. It consists of three parts.

First you say, “I forgive you for everything you ever did that hurt me.”

Second, you write out a description or list of every single thing that you are still mad about. Some people write several pages in this part.

Third, you end the letter with the words, “I wish you well.”

You then take the letter to the mailbox and drop it in. At that moment, you will feel a huge sense of relief, and you will be free at last.

By the way, don’t worry about how the other person might react. That is not your concern. Your goal is to free yourself, to regain your peace of mind, and to get on with the wonderful life that lies ahead of you.

Clear Your Slate

 The third person you must forgive is everyone else in your life who has ever hurt you in any way. Let them go. Forgive every boss, business partner, friend, crook or betrayer who has ever caused you grief of any kind. Clean the slate and forgive to forget. Wipe each of their names and images off by saying, “I forgive him/her for everything, and I wish him/her well.” Repeat this statement each time you think of the person or situation until the negative feelings are gone.

Set Yourself Free

 The fourth and final person you have to forgive is yourself. You must absolutely forgive yourself for every silly, senseless, wicked, brainless, thoughtless or cruel thing you have ever done or said. Stop carrying these past mistakes around with you. That was then and this is now.

Think of it this way. When you did those things in the past that you still feel badly about, you were not the person you are today. At that time, you were a different person, younger and less experienced. You were not your true self. You were an immature version of the person you have become with experience. Stop beating yourself up for something that occurred in the past that you cannot change.

Just say, “I forgive myself for every mistake I ever made. I am a thoroughly good person and I am going to have a wonderful future.” Whenever you think of that event or situation, just repeat, “I forgive myself completely.” And then get on with your life. Focus on the future rather than the past and don’t look back. Look at where you are going rather than where you have been.

Finally, if you did something that hurt someone, and you still feel badly about it, you can go to that person, or write, and apologize. Tell the person you are sorry for what you did or said. Whatever his or her reaction, positive or negative, it doesn’t matter. The very act of repentance, of expressing regret, will set you free.

I am reminded of the words Martin Luther King, Jr "Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude "